{"product_id":"the-intimacy-struggle-revised-and-expanded-for-all-adults","title":"The Intimacy Struggle: Revised And Expanded For All Adults","description":"\u003cp\u003eProduct Descriptionthe Struggle For Intimacy Is A Complex Issue, Key To The Happiness Of Every Man And Woman. It Goes On For All Of Us As Long As We Live. To Be Intimate Is To Be Close, To Be Vulnerable, Qualities That Are Very Different From The Survival Skills We Learned. This Book Will Help Clarify The Issues For You.You Can Learn To:Identify Family Myths To Make You Wonder Whether Having A Healthy, Intimate Relationship Is Possible.Know The Questions To Ask To Find Out Whether You And Your Partner Have A Longterm Future Together.Be Aware Of Misunderstandings That Can Sabotage Your Relationship.Express Your Feelings And Fears So As To Avoid Misunderstandings.Find Our What To Do When Your Relationship Is Not Working.Create Good Relationships.Acquiring Intimacy Skills Can Be Difficult, But Through Understanding And Effort, They Can Be Learned. This Insightful Book Is A Good Place To Begin.About The Authorjanet Woititz (19381994) Is The Author Of Adult Children Of Alcoholics, Which Was On The New York Times Bestseller List For Over A Year. She Wrote Several Other Books, Including Lifeskills For Adult Children; The Selfsabotage Syndrome; The Struggle For Intimacy; Marriage On The Rocks; Healing Your Sexual Self And Many Others. Woititz Was The Director And Founder Of The Institute For Counseling And Training In West Caldwell, New Jersey.Excerpt.  Reprinted By Permission. All Rights Reserved.Chapter 2What Is A Healthy Relationship Anyway?What Does A Healthy Relationship Look Like? What Does It Feel Like? How Do I Get One? How Will I Know If I Have One?These Are Very Important And Real Questions That Need To Be Addressed. Wanting To Be Involved In A Healthy, Intimate Relationship Is A Universal Condition. And Defining Just Exactly What Healthy Is, Is A Universal Question.You Know You Are In A Healthy, Intimate Relationship When You Have Created An Environment Where: I Can Be Me.You Can Be You.We Can Be Us.I Can Grow.You Can Grow.We Can Grow Together.Essentially, Thats What Its All About. Its Paradoxical That A Healthy Relationship Frees Me To Be Myself  And Yet I Dont Know Who I Am Because Acquiring Selfknowledge Is A Lifelong Process. Although You May Not Have A Strong Sense Of Who You Are, You Recognize Clearly When You Are Not Being Allowed The Freedom To Be You. It Is Clear When You Are Feeling Judged. It Is Clear When You Feel That You Are Walking On Eggs. It Is Clear When You Worry About Making A Mistake. In Effect, The Freedom To Be You Means That Your Partner Will Neither Interfere With Nor Judge Your Process Of Being And Becoming.You Offer Your Partner The Same Freedom That You Are Asking For Yourself. And You Accept Your Partner As He Is, And Do Not Try To Use The Power Of Your Love To Turn Him Into A Swan. You Do Not Get Caught Up In Your Fantasy Of Who You Want Him To Be, And Then Concentrate On Making That Happen. You Focus On Who That Person Really Is.I Accept You Unconditionally, And You Accept Unconditionally. Thats The Bottom Line. It Does Not Mean That Changes In Personality Or Actions Are Undesirable Or Impossible  It Merely Means That You Begin By Accepting Your Partner As He Or She Is.We Are Free To Be Us. Each Couple Defines Their Own Relationship Built On Shared Values And Interests. First, They Must Decide What They Each Value As Individuals And Then They Can Build A Oneness Out Of Their Separateness. Some Of Their Differences Are Unimportant And Can Be Either Ignored Or Resolved. For Example, Issues Such As, You Always Leave The Cap Off The Toothpaste, Or I Hate Church Socials, Can Be Worked Out Easily.Other Differences Are Significant And Need To Be Worked Out If The Relationship Is To Remain Healthy And Survive. Examples Of More Critical Issues Are, I Dont Want Any Children, Or Ill Never Have Anything To Do With Your Mother Again.Many Experiences Are Enhanced Because The Two Of You Are A Couple. Enjoying Together The Beauty Of A Sun\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Health Communications Inc","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":47090380144885,"sku":"DADAX1558742778","price":10.32,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":false}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0737\/5804\/8501\/files\/71aBZSmiv4L.jpg?v=1759480059","url":"https:\/\/ergodebooks.com\/products\/the-intimacy-struggle-revised-and-expanded-for-all-adults","provider":"Ergodebooks","version":"1.0","type":"link"}