The Kazdin Method For Parenting The Defiant Child

The Kazdin Method For Parenting The Defiant Child

Product Description A lifesaving handbook for parents of children who are occasionally, or too often, out of control Includes a bound-in twenty-minute DVD featuring Dr. Kazdin and his staff illustrating key concepts of the Kazdin Method Most child-behavior books are filled with advice that sounds reasonable, fits with what parents already believe about child-rearing, and isas Dr. Kazdin proves guaranteed to fail. The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child makes available to parents for the first time Dr. Kazdins proven programone backed up by some of the most long-term and respected research devoted to any therapy for children. Kazdin shatters decades worth of accumulated myths about tantrums, time-outs, punishments fitting the crime, and much more.With the practicality of Ferber and the warmth of Brazelton, Kazdin leads parents through every step of the Kazdin Method in actionhow to use tone of voice, when and how to touch, how to lead your child in a practice session, how to adjust your approach for different-age children, how to involve siblings, and more.The program is temporary, but the results are permanentfor very young children, adolescents, and even beyond. Review [Kazdins] easygoing and often humorous tone gently guides readers through an array of problem scenarios...The author promises long-lasting results for a temporary investment in his practical, positive method; parents may be well rewarded if they give it a try. ( Publishers Weekly ) About the Author ALAN E. KAZDIN is John M. Musser Professor of Psychology at Yale University and director of Yales Parenting Center and Child Conduct Clinic. He is 2008 president of the American Psychological Association and the author of many professional-audience books on child psychology and behavior published in dozens of countries. Kazdin lives in Hamden, Connecticut. Excerpt. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Your four-year-olds tantrums have become more frequent and intense; they have started to dominate the life of your household. Hes not just yelling and screaming anymore ? now he throws things, hits, and kicks, too. The bedtime tantrum is the most predictable one, and the one that disrupts home life the most, but he has also taken his show on the road. Youve been late to work recently because he melts down in the morning when you leave him at daycare. After other spectacular public performances at the supermarket, restaurants, and family gatherings, none of which you handled very well, you are sure that others see you as an incompetent parent ? and you are starting to wonder if they might be right. And, deeper than that, it frightens you to feel the situation slipping beyond your control. Youre losing your confidence that you can govern your child, your household, and when you lose your temper, yourself. *** You want your nine-year-old to work with you, not against you. Youre not asking for blind compliance, but more cooperation would be nice. Right now, she seems to fight you every step of the way, from getting up for school in the morning through homework and dinner and computer or TV time. Sometimes she insists on complete freedom and autonomy; sometimes she acts as if you have to do everything for her. She bickers incessantly with her sister, too. Is it asking too much for you to have a little peace around the house? Youre tired of laying down the law, trying to understand her point of view, and using every other strategy that hasnt worked. Frankly, you are fed up with your own child. You find yourself wistfully wondering why you werent one of the lucky ones who got a nice, easy kid to raise. *** Your thirteen-year-old gives you nothing but attitude. On a couple of occasions, he has stolen something or committed an act of vandalism, the most worrisome pieces of a larger pattern of defying authority. You tell yourself that hes going through a phase, that hes just a nor