How You Can Command Respect And Be Loved For It: Knowledge And Skills To Change Your Life,Used

This is a book looking at behaviours which raise our 'social status' (sometimes called 'Demonstrations of High Value, abbreviated to DHV's), and looking at things we may be unknowingly doing to lower our social status (Demonstrations of Low Value, abbreviated to DLV).Essentially this is a workbook to raise your social status, loaded with exercises, tips, and social intelligence to this effect. For instance, if you want to speak to a busy person you might feel the desire to rush your words and do things which put you in a lower status relative to them. There are ways to turn this around by making them curious to hear what you have to say. This way they will suddenly find time to speak to you, and their curiosity will put YOU in the higher status position. This ' being busy' phenomena can also be used to YOUR advantage.People may bully you using presuppositions. These can be used by others to form nasty put downs which are hard to quickly respond to; for example 'You know you can't do that' or 'do you realize you are letting the team down'. This book has many examples and exercises to enable you to quickly identify and effectively respond to these in future.In a conversation with a 'high status' person, you probably feel the desire to agree with what they are saying, which you know will increase rapport. If you disagree with something they say, you are showing them that you can think for yourself, and raising an alternative view may also generate more conversation. Agreement is compliance, which generates rapport, disagreement generates status and often generates attraction. Carefully judged balance is essential here!This knowledge will change your life for the better, for ever.IMPORTANT UPDATE: I have now published a bigger and better item Get it: Understand it: Get ahead. This new book is a far better production, and it contains about three times the amount of useful material as 'Command Respect', with a lot of new material. Additionally, the tables have appeared correctly, and the more complicated principles carried over from 'Command Respect' have been more clearly explained, being further developed with many additional exercises.