The Twisted Sisterhood: Unraveling The Dark Legacy Of Female Friendships-new

You Know All About Socalled 'Mean Girls' And Competitive, Judgmental Women. Maybe You Had A Cruel High School Experience Straight Out Of The Movie Carrie. Maybe You Find Yourself Anxious Because Your Daughters Peers Are Excluding Her. Maybe Youve Been Harassed Or Marginalized By Other Females For Being Something They Were Not: Fat, Acneprone, Too Pretty, Not Pretty Enough, Brainy, Religious, Anxious, Overconfident, A Different Kind Of Mother. Maybe You Have A Difficult Female Boss Or Coworkers Who Are Wreaking Havoc On Your Ability To Thrive Or Trust Them In The Workplace. Maybe Youve Shrugged It All Off And Figured: Thats Just The Way Human Beings Sometimes Operate, Or Im Not Going To Feed The Cultural Or Media Stereotypes By Whining About Other Women. But Have You Ever Considered What All This Negativity Is Doing To Our Gender? The Stories Differ, And The Consequences Of Our Incivility Range In Severity, But One Thing Seems Almost Universal: Women Carry Powerful Impressions And Memories Of Their Femaleinflicted Wounds. The Hurt Lingers.In The Twisted Sisterhood, Kelly Valen Picks Up Where Her Arresting New York Times Essay About A Painful Sorority Encounter Left Off. Praised By The Likes Of Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, The Washington Post, Associated Press, Marie Claire And More Magazines, Among Many Others, Tts Pulls Back The Curtain On The Darker Aspects Of Female Relationships, Revealing The Troubling Findings From Her Unique Survey Of More Than Three Thousand Women From All Walks Of Life. Leaving Males Out Of The Equation For Purposes Of This Book Only, Valen Reveals The Demoralizing Fallout Of Our Shenanigans And Shines A Light On The Paradox Of Women Supporting And, Often Gratuitously Sabotaging One Another. Her Interviews And Research Show That Although Women Are Often Each Others Best, Most Lifesustaining Sources Of Support, There Is A Dark Underbelly To Female Relationships Worth Exploring. The Vast Majority Of Women In Valens Survey, For Example, Report That Although They Have At Least One Girlfriendship They Wouldnt Want To Live Without, Well Over Half Still Approach Female Camaraderie With A Wariness Or Flatout Distrust And Admit That They Are Unableor Unwillingto Extend Themselves To Certain Types Or Groups Of Women. An Overwhelming Majority Have Endured Serious Knocks From Other Girls Or Women To Explain This Wariness. A Staggering 97% Of Those Polled Believe It Is Crucial That We Work To Improve The Female Culture.Laying Bare The Legacy Of The Belittled 'Girl Wars' Across A Womans Life, The Twisted Sisterhood Offers Up Groundbreaking Research And Anecdotal Findings About The Hidden, Longterm Effects Of Our Manipulations, Competitions, Judgments, And Outright Bullying. Capturing The True Attitudes Of Contemporary Women, Tts Gives Voice To The Lingering Memories, Ambivalence, And Struggles So Many Of Us Quietly Experience, And Considers The Net Effect Of Our Darker Inclinations: An Increasingly Inhospitable And Dysfunctional Society Of Women. Valen Also Looks To The Future, Offering Hope And Practical Ideas For How Girls And Their Mothers, Women, And 'Sisters' Can Come Together And Improve Their Profoundly Needed Female Connections. No Matter How Content Or Supported You Feel With Your Current Circle Of Girlfriends Or Colleagues, And No Matter How Placid A Daughters Navigation Of Girlworld Might Appeaer, Valen Explains, Each Of Us Holds A Stake In Listening To Others Experiences And Helping Foster A More Mindful Civility Within The Gender.